Cheaters
There are other signs that can help you tell what is going on. Look for purchases on credit cards, motels, flowers, jewelry, lingerie that you're not receiving, if you're the wife. Men can look for expenditures with the wife, but unless there's a shirt, watch, bottle of liquor that neither of you drink, women aren't the ones that spring for most of these goodies.
Men can look for prizes that women receive that cannot be explained, so a fair amount of snooping is going to be required. Look for new colognes, aftershaves, a sudden interest in bar hopping with friends and late night phone conversations.
You might want to look at cell phone bills and your regular phone bill might also hold some information. If you see numbers you don't recognize, call them. Don't forget to check the caller I.D. and last number redial feature on your phones. People having affairs are cautious, but they make mistakes that you can catch. Keep track of mileage on their vehicle and if miles and stories don't add up you have something that should tell you to look more closely at your spouse's behavior. It's quite possible that it may be nothing more than a gut feeling that something is not right. There could be no symptoms that lead you to be suspicious. If you feel that you just don't trust them, then it is definately time to check them out.
Our experience is that if you are feeling that something is going on, fully 95% of the time you are right. If you decide to conduct your own surveillance perhaps you will be in the 5% where nothing is going on with some type of paramore. If that is the case with you, your surveillance has paid off there too.
If your problem is with someone you've met and you want to see about a serious relationship, but you're just not sure that everything adds up to what they claim, check them out. The procedure is very similar to the spouse versus spouse scenario, except that you may not have access to phone bills, credit card bills or other personal effects. You can verify that they work where they say they do and you can check out where they live and who they hang out with.
Beyond the basics here, you'll probably need a private investigator to check backgrounds for criminal, marital and military history. Asset checks are a possibility, but are becoming more difficult due to legislative changes in some states. Personally, if someone checks out as to where they live, usually the rest will probably check out all right. You can not conduct a credit check on anyone, but you can do several things yourself. Doing a proper do it yourself background check will be covered later.
If things don't add up, bail out before it's too late. Divorce courts are full of cases where people jumped into marriage without really knowing the person they married.
