Spouse Lover Cheating? Look for the signs

Who You Want to Look At

The situations that might require looking closely at someone are numerous. We can't cover every possible scenario in this website and didn't intend to. We wanted to discuss situations where a spouse suspects their mate of having an affair. We're going to look at checking up on someone you just met and want to check them out more carefully before you become so involved you can't just walk away.

The safety and well being of our children is paramount whether they are very young or in their teenage years. Therefore, we want to show how to look at the nanny, baby sitter, au pair or whomever cares for your very young children when you're not home. As well as how to look at your teenagers behavior as it might relate to behavior that may just get them into trouble with the law.

We'll be looking at a variety of signs and symptoms and some hard evidence that can lead to the decision that a close look is warranted. It is not a decision that should be taken lightly. When you are deciding to put someone under surveillance, you are invading their privacy and if they were to find out that you have been or are doing this they could very well act out against you. Be careful and be prepared for the consequences.

Let's look at the spouse versus spouse situation first. There are a number of signs that may occur when the person that you share your life with is seeing someone else. These are not carved in stone and only one or two or perhaps none may be present. We're just going to look at a few of the common complaints that clients come to me with when they want their husband or wife looked at.

High on the list is spending more and more time away from home. This could be blamed on a change in a work schedule or it might come in the form of a guy's or girl's night out. Suddenly, an evening or two away from home is declared as necessary for the spousal peace of mind. If this comes up only once every few months, I doubt that infidelity will tolerate such infrequent trysts.

I often hear about a drastic change in sexual behavior between spouses when suspicions are aroused. This can be a change that sex either stops all together or possibly the introduction of sexual toys, risqué clothing or radical changes in techniques. I have seen cases where years of routine love making the spouse suddenly is disproportionately more interested in marital sex, wants to wear sexy undergarments or watch x- rated movies all of a sudden.

Another behavior that is related to

this is the sudden interest in losing weight and becoming more fit. New styles of dressing as well as new hairstyles can be symptomatic also.

Are these behaviors proof that there is someone else? Of course not. It is absolutely possible that your spouse has finally become aware that something needs spicing up and having read a few books or talked to a counselor or close friend decided to make your lives more interesting and exciting.